Reasons why WOMEN broke up with MEN

Women are known for being very imaginative. Most of women dreams of having a perfect relationship with their right guy in the right time.Women may also known for being dramatic,always complaining and very talkative. But most of all women are known fr being sweet and doing all they can just to make the relationship work.But what if the women chooses to broke up with the man they love? What maybe the reasons why the came to that decision.

When I was doing the blog of Reasons why Men broke up with Women, It also comes to my mind to know what are the reasons why women broke up with men just to be fair and of course as a women it will be also good for me to let my men readers know what are the reasons and defend my gender.

I read this blog The Real Reasons Women Break Up With Men from the website of Community Blog that was written by Christian Marashio. In this article it discuss 11 Reasons why women broke up with men and below are the reasons that was indicated in that article.

1.He's Moody.
           -According to Christian Marashio "Guys hate to be poked and prodded to discuss their feelings. We get that. But shouldn't you feel lucky that you have someone in your life that cares enough and is attentive enough to notice a change in your mood and ask what's up? Rather than get testy with us, why not just tell us you're in a mood and would just prefer to sulk for a bit before opening up. "
Men are known to their image of being strong, not dramatic and straight to the point.But is that always good? Is the women have to understand that attitude always? Women are known for being open. They can't sleep without saying what they want to say especially to the man that they love.But sometimes men are so moody, sometimes they listen to what you say without getting mad and sometimes they get mad even if your not done saying what you want to say. In this attitude that men has, women are tend to lose their patience and in that case they came up to a breaking up decision.

2.He's Bad In Bed.
        -We know that men are the ones who are always longing for sex. Its part of being a man of experiencing sex. But women? How can be their problem of men being bad in bed as part of their reasons in breaking up.

3. He's a Caveman
       -As what all know Men are not expressive and they don't want long conversation but as a boyfriend to his girlfriend its his responsibility to at least have a communication with her girlfriend.According to Christian "Nothing aggravates me more than the one word answers, grunts or the slow droning of a conversation where you can tell he's distracted and not focused on what you're saying. " Women can understand that a men is not a phone person and he don't want to always report what he did but a little conversation at least once a day will make a women important to a guy. But when the guy always ignore or mad what a women wants. Women will came up to the decision of breaking.

4.He Thinks He's a Mind Reader.
     -Men hates being called or being reported what they have to do. When a girl once call him, he will think that his girlfriend is thinking something about him. But they don't know that women are just concern or thinking of them and not want they think. 

5.He Hangs With His Friends Too Often
    -Its not a problem that men are hanging out with there friends because it is part of his individual life. But always hanging up to 2 am is another issue. Women may not think that they are doing something with some girls out there but you can't take out that from the women's mind that kind of thing especially when they are always doing that. And when a men always do that, One day will come that their girlfriend will get tired and decide to leave rather than being stress of what attitude the guy has.

6.He Lies
     - Lying is the biggest mistake that a person could do in partner.It involves losing the trust and also lessen the love. No one wants to be lied by someone they trust. Men may do something that a women don't want them to do and when they was caught in the act they will still deny it. That kind of attitude makes the women realize that its better to leave the relationship than having worries.

7.He Works Too Much. 
    - "Yes, many of us ladies want a man with drive and ambition. And there are plenty who are happy to trade in time with their man for a nice house in the Hamptons or trips to Paris three times a year. Those women are not ALL women. Many of us actually want to see you, talk to you, check in with you. Why? Because we like you and like spending time with you. We love a man who has a great work ethic. We're not so crazy about men who love their jobs more than us or who can not prioritize us from time to time".Christian Said. What the author said is right. We want a responsible man with great ambition in your future but having a men who loves his job more than his women is another issue.

8.He Treats Us Differently Around His Friends. 
    -In this reason, Women hates when men treating his girlfriend differently in front of his friends. Shouting on you and always asking you something which is not a request but a commend is not gooy.Its like showing your friend that she's not your girlfriend but your yaya or your friend. Girlfriend are not there to become your yaya who will always follow your commands but they are there to love and be loved.

9.. He's Cheap.
   -Its not good for a girl that is being materialistic and always looking on the price. But as a women it is part of our life of feeling special and important.Women like romantic places and having attention but because you don't have money or you don't want to spend it for a date is not a good attitude. As a boyfriend its your responsibility to make your girlfriend happy and special.

10.He Doesn't Listen.
     -"God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason. Sometimes we just want you to listen. It's sweet that you want to fix our problems, but what you need to understand is that that's not always what we're looking for. " Christian Said. Ears are made to be used in listening, But sometimes men are don't want to listen especially driamas but as a Boyfriend, its his responsibility to listen to his girlfriend. To know what she thinks, what she wants or what she feel. Not allowing yourself listen to your girlfriend is like making her feel that your not there and she's nothing.

11.He Acts Secretive Or Defensive.
    -Being not expressive or answering questions from his girlfriend will sometimes means your hiding something fishy from your girlfriend. When a guy having this action of being careful and keeping or hiding something with her girlfriend is losing her trust. Its very difficult to think of something that you don't have a proof but it is harder to think we you conscience and instinct is greater than that what you should feel. And when the girl get tired of having that feeling. Its better for her to leave that to stay in that feeling.


Men are the one that should build the relationship. He must always make her girlfriend feel that she is special.Women are always there to be with the man.Sometimes they do things that want guy don't like but most of the time it depends how the guy treat her.

No one can force someone to stay in there lives when that someone doesn't want to stay anymore.Women has their own minds and own feeling, it is maybe me a rule in the society that women should always follow the men. But a man should also understand that a woman has her feelings that a man could not control.Reasons are reasons, but that reasons leads to final decisions.

Execise #1 Formal Language

Believing in the magic of love is like taking risk. All of us believe that love is the most powerful and exciting feeling that one person could feel in his/her whole life. But as you experience the pain would you still believe that love is the happiest feeling?

Risk is taken when one  believe in the supernatural feeling of love.When pain is experience, Would still that person believe in the happiness and the exciting feeling that love could give?

Reasons why MEN broke up with Women

We all know that men are the one who starts the relationship. When they court you its the start of everything. But what if the man who starts everything will be the one to end it?We know that everything and everyone has a reason why it happen. And in this case let us look on the point of view of a man why he chooses to broke up with his woman.

I found this article of tbone64. The Top 10 Real Reasons Men Break Up With Women. This article shows all the reasons that men have in their mind before they broke up with their women. For me this are valid reasons because they have their own feelings and as what I noticed that reasons is not really about the love, but the actions that the woman did. Let me list down those reasons why men break up with women

1. Women don't listen. 

• "When a man says something, give him a chance to speak. Listen to what he says. " Tbone64 said. Women are really popular when it terms to talking. Women are very vocal to their feelings and most of all its very hard for women to listen to the reasons of men when they did something wrong.But we don't know that men or a human wants that there is someone who listens to them even if its good or bad.And when they feel that their opinion doesn't matter. That's when they decide to leave.

2. Women listen to their friends too much

• According also to the article, It was discuss that women listen too much with their friends. We know that women cannot hide secrets among themselves. There is always one person they open all the things in their mind.And of course there are friends who wants to know whats going on on their friends relationship. So when the man and the woman have a problem in their relationship, we expect that women will contact one of her friends or her friends to seek for advice and tell everything. And when time that women talk with her boyfriend, most of the words that he may say is from her friends words and his point of view in their situation is what her friends saw. In that case man will feel that women depend on others about there relationship and the privacy that a man has will not be given because of the friends around them. And because of that the man will end to decision of breaking up to avoid all the unnecessary issues among their relationship.

3. The relationship is NOT a family affair.

• It is a problem when a girl is very open to there relationship in her family. Its not bad that you are open to your family about the relationship you have with your boyfriend. But not all things should be told about your relationship especially when it is about the argument. Men don't like it because it is like that you are giving your family a bad impression to him.

4. We're not joined at the hip. 

• In this reason, It was said in the article that we have our own likes and dislikes. Girls wants that whenever they are their man should be there also, Its not bad but sometimes you have to understand that a man has there own friends and life. And if it is always the problem of the relationship especially with girls attitude, That's when the boy decided to broke up.

5. Is this a relationship or a prison sentence?

• Women are like police who always inspect what her boyfriend does or where he goes. Its a part of being a girlfriend but being to much is another issue. It was uneasy when someone is always checking what you do. Its like that the trust was not there, We all know that It is maybe about the care or love but being too much feels like imprisoned.

6. Independence is great—to a point.

• In this generation, Women wants a equal treatment with the men. They believe that what men can do they can also. But we know that a man's responsibility is to protect their woman. It was there job to secure his girl and it shows his care.But when there are times that you always say that "I'm ok," "Don't worry I can do it alone." The ego of the man was really affected. And when that happens. It will come to their mind that why will he still stays when you can do everything without him.

7. Being too dependent is not a good thing, either.

• It makes me confuse about the number 6 and 7 reason. What I understand is Man wants to feel that they are need by woman but still they want a woman who has there own decision.In other words they want a grown up women who can stand with her own but not too independent.

8. Don't you ever have anything nice to say?

• It is reason when men break up with women when they feel that their women don;t support her in everything he does.It maybe look like your treating him a child but men want you to be proud of him. And when he can't found it to you. He will decide to broke up with you and find another to fulfill want he want.

9. There's no future in the past.

• We all know that all of us can do mistake but always bringing and talking it back again is like making your problems unending issue and it is so irritating of always talking that things that should have left in the past. When your boyfriend make mistake before is should be done and not bring back anymore because always making him feel that he did that it makes him think to leave.

10. Maybe his friends won't be your friends, but don't dog them out, either.

• Most of relationships problem is about the friends. When your boyfriend did something that you don't want, sometimes the one you blame is his friends and that makes your relationship more complicated because you are trying to put other people on your relationship.Always remember that before you came he has his own life and his own friends. 

In this topic what I can say is Men has there own feelings. As a human they have to decide what is good for them. They have also the right to take care of there own feelings. I've also learned that as a women we also have to take care of the man's feeling. Its not an obligation but its our responsibility to understand what others feel.

Its OVER!: Types of Break up

“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.” ― Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun

When I was trying to think what will be the next topic for this blog. I tried to search some quotes for me to get idea and suddenly I read this quotes which about saying goodbye to someone even though you know its  hard. And this brings me to the question Why they chose to break up?

I came up to this article about The Types of Break up by Kati Blake.It is so interesting right? Because your always think about the things why you ended your relationship and all the reasons but you didn't know what type of break up it is. Based on Her article, There are 4 Types of Break up.

1. The mutual break up

• According to Kate's article "This is where both partners agree mutually to terminate the relationship. It’s usually when all feelings have died or when one partner undergoes a major life change, such as a new job far away and can’t seem to stay in a long distance relationship. " Mutual break up for me is the type of break up which you can easily to move on because both of you decide to end your relationship for the same reason that it is good for both of you. But maybe there are still some things behind each other but because you both decide, you have to keep it.

2.The Abusive Relationship Break up

• No person has the right to abuse someone. It is according to the Law of our country and of course Law of God. She also stated"While this kind of break up is necessary, it often feels even more painful than a normal break up. It can be hard for family and friends to understand why you still miss and probably love someone who has abused you but it’s extremely hard to fight these feelings." I agree what this article says because when someone abuse you and you still chose to come back you give him the right to do it anytime he want and you also losing your respect to yourself. It also very painful to the one who is abused  because you choose to broke up not because you fall out of love but because you've been hurt.

3.He Left You

• This is one of the break which the most affected was the girl. Most of girls are the one who left the guy but in this situation the guy chooses to broke up with the girl. In this kind of break up, girls will feel incomplete or maybe so many questions in their mind like "What is wrong with me?" And It will make the girl feel insecure with some other girls or especially to the one who was chosen by the guy.

4.You Left Him

• This break up is when you are the one who chooses to end up the relationship.We know that breaking up is painful but we still chooses to do it because we have a reason. In this break up all you can do is to think that if you really do the right thing or what is the true reason why you choose to do it. We can't say that the only one who will be affected is the left one. It may also the one who choose to leave.

No one wants to be get hurt, No one wants to hurt someone. But sometimes our decision is not always for the happiness of everybody. There are times that we have to do things that will make us or someone hurt just to be better soon. Breaking up is painful but I always believe that going through break up is one step closer to find the right one.

One day we wake up and ITS GONE!

Believing in the magic of love is like taking risk. All of us believe that love is the most powerful and exciting feeling that one person could feel in his/her whole life. But as you experience the pain would you still believe that love is the happiest feeling?

It was everyone's dream to find someone who will love you the way you do or maybe more than you do, who will share with you the precious moments and who will not let you down when you are in the darkest phase of your life. But what will you do if the Love between you will disappear because of the existence of the word. BREAKING UP? 

I came up to this article about the Causes of breaking up. As a summary of that article, the common reasons why people break up are 

• Distrust
• It was stated in the article that " Healthy love affairs are built on trust. When you commit yourself to somebody, you are placing a large amount of trust in them. "I can say that trust is the most important ingredient to have a healthy relationship. Because being committed to your partner is like putting also yourself with him. And it also the most fragile because once it is destroy it is hard or maybe impossible to bring back the trust. And trust is may be caused by one single mistake which you maybe intend or not.
• Differences
• We do believe that everyone is unique. We have our own perspectives in life. But being committed is also accepting one's differences. But why do still it is the reason why people break up? it is because every person wants that there ideas will be heard or believe.And when there is someone opposing our believe we have this feeling of getting hurt or angry and it is the root of knowing that you have differences and will lead to misunderstanding. 
• Boredom
• We all expect to have a exciting and happy relationship. But when time comes that you became both busy and don't have a time for each other. It cause breaking up because you don't feel the company of each other. But if you really love someone its your obligation to understand him/her.
• Loss of love.
• This may be the ultimate and painful reason why couple broke up. The loss of love is something who is hard to accept but it is really existing. It always starts with the question WHY?. You may be do everything so that your partner will feel your love but still it happens that one day come he told you that I don'y love you anymore.

On my own experience. I do really believe that breaking up with someone you love if the most painful part of your life. And facing that causes is like wishing it was just a dream. But whatever we still It exist. I am also going through break up and still can't accept that trust and differences is the reason why it happen. But what can I do? It's GONE. But knowing that this reason exist. It helps me to understand why it happen and make me now know what will do next time. 

It's ME :)

Hello. I'm Rojanie Joy A. Roda, 18 yrs old. I'm studying at Asia Pacific College taking up Bachelor of Science in Accountancy. I live in Pasig City and I am Proud Alumni of Rizal High School. I love collecting pink stuffs.I love eating sweet foods just like my attitude. I'm a sweet and jolly person. I always believe of not stressing yourself in all the problems because that will make you ugly. You should always end you day with a SMILE :))

My blog is all about LOVE :). So interesting right? But my focus is about BREAKING UP which is the most  controversial part of a relationship. I choose this topic because I just experience that situation and It really bothers mo right now. So using this blog I know I can share some advice as well as some reasons about breaking up. And It can maybe help me to go through the process of breaking up until I reach the point that I can say I moved on. I also tend to use this blog for my research paper so we can answer different questions about breaking up. 

We all wanted to have a everlasting relationship with someone that we love. But sometimes life is so unfair. We can't always get what we wanted. So in this blog the main question that we are going to answer is "Why people decide to separate ways?"