Its OVER!: Types of Break up

“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.” ― Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun

When I was trying to think what will be the next topic for this blog. I tried to search some quotes for me to get idea and suddenly I read this quotes which about saying goodbye to someone even though you know its  hard. And this brings me to the question Why they chose to break up?

I came up to this article about The Types of Break up by Kati Blake.It is so interesting right? Because your always think about the things why you ended your relationship and all the reasons but you didn't know what type of break up it is. Based on Her article, There are 4 Types of Break up.

1. The mutual break up

• According to Kate's article "This is where both partners agree mutually to terminate the relationship. It’s usually when all feelings have died or when one partner undergoes a major life change, such as a new job far away and can’t seem to stay in a long distance relationship. " Mutual break up for me is the type of break up which you can easily to move on because both of you decide to end your relationship for the same reason that it is good for both of you. But maybe there are still some things behind each other but because you both decide, you have to keep it.

2.The Abusive Relationship Break up

• No person has the right to abuse someone. It is according to the Law of our country and of course Law of God. She also stated"While this kind of break up is necessary, it often feels even more painful than a normal break up. It can be hard for family and friends to understand why you still miss and probably love someone who has abused you but it’s extremely hard to fight these feelings." I agree what this article says because when someone abuse you and you still chose to come back you give him the right to do it anytime he want and you also losing your respect to yourself. It also very painful to the one who is abused  because you choose to broke up not because you fall out of love but because you've been hurt.

3.He Left You

• This is one of the break which the most affected was the girl. Most of girls are the one who left the guy but in this situation the guy chooses to broke up with the girl. In this kind of break up, girls will feel incomplete or maybe so many questions in their mind like "What is wrong with me?" And It will make the girl feel insecure with some other girls or especially to the one who was chosen by the guy.

4.You Left Him

• This break up is when you are the one who chooses to end up the relationship.We know that breaking up is painful but we still chooses to do it because we have a reason. In this break up all you can do is to think that if you really do the right thing or what is the true reason why you choose to do it. We can't say that the only one who will be affected is the left one. It may also the one who choose to leave.

No one wants to be get hurt, No one wants to hurt someone. But sometimes our decision is not always for the happiness of everybody. There are times that we have to do things that will make us or someone hurt just to be better soon. Breaking up is painful but I always believe that going through break up is one step closer to find the right one.