"Don't take your love away from me
Don't you leave my heart in misery
If you go then I'll be blue
'Cause breaking up his hard to do"....
It was a famous line from the song Breaking up is hard to do by Neil Sedaka. This song is famous because it was mostly sung in videoke and because of this tone which is to memorize and remember. But have you really wonder if really breaking up is hard to do?
We know that in breaking up one is hurt and one is happy or maybe both are hurt.We can't avoid that when we have to decide something not all will be happy. There are still people that will be sad. Just like breaking up, you don't have to push yourself to forget doing it because you are afraid of getting someone hurt.
Because of curiosity, I researched about ways of breaking up with someone and what I found is more than what I expected. I read this article about Gentle ways of breaking up with a guy in the website of cupidblogger.com. And Yes breaking up with a guy. So it focuses on how a women will break up a guy in a gentle way.
In this article I found 8 ways of breaking up with a guy
1.Don’t leave opened doors
-According to the article "When breaking the news to a guy that it is over, be crystal clear that it is absolutely O-V-E-R. It may seem nice to offer the possibility that one day in the future, you two will find your way back into each other’s arms, but this gives the poor fella false hope. And with false hope come drunken calls at 3am, asking if you are ready to take him back yet. So be kind and make it clear to them that they need to move on."
We know that breaking with someone is hard to do, but it is more painful to the one who was broken up.We don't know what will happen in the future, but according to what the article says, at least give him a hope that someday you will find yourself again in each others arms. It will may be a false hope but at least you will lessen the pain that he will feel.But when he is still pushing that you should come back together, then its the time to make him really realize that you have to do that.
2. Don’t let him be the last to know
-"Sure, talking through your feelings with a friend can be helpful when working up the courage to break up, but try to limit yourself to how many people heard the test-run of your dumping speech. Eventually someone is going to blab… and when he finds out from someone other than you, he’ll feel more devastated and very much humiliated."
We know,Girls are very expressive. If there is something in their mind that at least one of her friend knows it. And like breaking up, girls will seek advice from his friends and tell the reasons why she want to break up with her boyfriend. But make sure that the persons that you entrust to say all about your plan will not let it known to others and especially to your boyfriend. Because he will feel hurt when he knew something happening in your relationship from others. It will be hard but at least make it sure that you will be the one who will tell everything, not others.
3.Don’t use gadgets
- Because of technology, it makes the people in a relationship easy to communicate with their love ones, But in breaking up? It is not good to use your gadgets in breaking up with your boyfriend. He loves you truly and therefore respect it. At least give him a formal break up without hiding from you cellular phones and laptops.You have the courage to answer him with a yes and agree in entering in a relationship, have also courage to end it in personal.
4.Don’t over react
-According to the article" If you are to break up because you are angry about something, express yourself. But remember that you are not a victim. You can come and go as you please, and you are. If you are angry, chances are you are mad at yourself for not seeing who this person was earlier, or for not trusting your own instincts."
We may be mad when we are breaking up because of what he does that gives you that decision, but at least make yourself out of it in front, you may tell what you really feel but control your feelings.Don't over react.
5.Don’t fake excuses
-Breaking u has its reason, a real reason. We know that making at least the reason light will lessen the feelings. But making false reasons will make a big problem.You know that you will hurt him but at least tel him the truth.Truth may hurt, but that makes him easily to get over and accept what you have decided.
6. Don’t linger too long
-In this ways, Its just say that don't make it to long, don't put other words that make the conversation longer.Breaking up is a painful feeling and you seeing that someone hurting in front of you is painful too.So when your breaking up with your boyfriend, you should be straight to the point.Tell the main problem and go to your decision.
7. Don’t be part of the drama
-"A guy with wounded pride and hurt feelings can get verbally abusive, so try to calm the situation with silence. Don’t engage with him, just listen, be quiet and don’t respond. Don’t fuel the fire by defending yourself. Let him get it all out, and then leave."
Of course a guy would also tell what he feels about the decision, And maybe he will get mad or make drama, and the thing you can do is just listen, make him release what is in him.
8.Don’t hover the break up
-You decided the break up but you still cares what he feels right now and you wanted to comfort him. And that is not good. You should avoid thinking of that and do other things like talking with your friends or watch movie. Because if you are trying to talk with him again just to comfort him, you are giving him a hope that you would be okay again.
Its bad to hear that there are ways of planing in breaking up with your boyfriend.But what I have learn is,This ways really help a lot. This will make the women control herself and act the way it should be.We know that we could not tell what will happen when were breaking up, but at least you have an idea what to do.
We know that breaking with someone is hard to do, but it is more painful to the one who was broken up.We don't know what will happen in the future, but according to what the article says, at least give him a hope that someday you will find yourself again in each others arms. It will may be a false hope but at least you will lessen the pain that he will feel.But when he is still pushing that you should come back together, then its the time to make him really realize that you have to do that.
2. Don’t let him be the last to know
-"Sure, talking through your feelings with a friend can be helpful when working up the courage to break up, but try to limit yourself to how many people heard the test-run of your dumping speech. Eventually someone is going to blab… and when he finds out from someone other than you, he’ll feel more devastated and very much humiliated."
We know,Girls are very expressive. If there is something in their mind that at least one of her friend knows it. And like breaking up, girls will seek advice from his friends and tell the reasons why she want to break up with her boyfriend. But make sure that the persons that you entrust to say all about your plan will not let it known to others and especially to your boyfriend. Because he will feel hurt when he knew something happening in your relationship from others. It will be hard but at least make it sure that you will be the one who will tell everything, not others.
3.Don’t use gadgets
- Because of technology, it makes the people in a relationship easy to communicate with their love ones, But in breaking up? It is not good to use your gadgets in breaking up with your boyfriend. He loves you truly and therefore respect it. At least give him a formal break up without hiding from you cellular phones and laptops.You have the courage to answer him with a yes and agree in entering in a relationship, have also courage to end it in personal.
4.Don’t over react
-According to the article" If you are to break up because you are angry about something, express yourself. But remember that you are not a victim. You can come and go as you please, and you are. If you are angry, chances are you are mad at yourself for not seeing who this person was earlier, or for not trusting your own instincts."
We may be mad when we are breaking up because of what he does that gives you that decision, but at least make yourself out of it in front, you may tell what you really feel but control your feelings.Don't over react.
5.Don’t fake excuses
-Breaking u has its reason, a real reason. We know that making at least the reason light will lessen the feelings. But making false reasons will make a big problem.You know that you will hurt him but at least tel him the truth.Truth may hurt, but that makes him easily to get over and accept what you have decided.
6. Don’t linger too long
-In this ways, Its just say that don't make it to long, don't put other words that make the conversation longer.Breaking up is a painful feeling and you seeing that someone hurting in front of you is painful too.So when your breaking up with your boyfriend, you should be straight to the point.Tell the main problem and go to your decision.
7. Don’t be part of the drama
-"A guy with wounded pride and hurt feelings can get verbally abusive, so try to calm the situation with silence. Don’t engage with him, just listen, be quiet and don’t respond. Don’t fuel the fire by defending yourself. Let him get it all out, and then leave."
Of course a guy would also tell what he feels about the decision, And maybe he will get mad or make drama, and the thing you can do is just listen, make him release what is in him.
8.Don’t hover the break up
-You decided the break up but you still cares what he feels right now and you wanted to comfort him. And that is not good. You should avoid thinking of that and do other things like talking with your friends or watch movie. Because if you are trying to talk with him again just to comfort him, you are giving him a hope that you would be okay again.
Its bad to hear that there are ways of planing in breaking up with your boyfriend.But what I have learn is,This ways really help a lot. This will make the women control herself and act the way it should be.We know that we could not tell what will happen when were breaking up, but at least you have an idea what to do.
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