Breaking up:Painless ways to broke up with your Girlfriends

When I was still in a relationship with my boyfriend before I ask him, "Would you break up with me if you know that we have a problem and we can't handle it anymore?"He answered,"No I won't,because I respect you as a girl and for me I will just wait that you will the one who decide to end our relationship."This answer from him makes me think that,"Is all men think the way like that?"Because most of relationships that I hear from my friends, The guys are the one who chose to broke up.

I read this article about the How to break up with a girlfriend in 5 painless steps. by Scott Paterson.
In this article, it indicates ways of breaking up with your girlfriend in painless ways, According to him, this are the ways of breaking up.

1.Be prepared for a little drama
  -According to Scott"Nobody likes being told that they're "not good enough" for a relationship- especially women. When you break up with your girlfriend, you should expect a wide range of emotions. This can include tears, anger or even happiness."

Women are very emotional and guys don't like that.So when you are breaking up with your girlfriend you should be prepared for the dramas and emotions that she may have and know how to handle it.

2.Let her be the first one to know

-Just what I have said in my other blog, No one wants to know something about their partner in others, So boys, We know that you are not that expressive but at least make your girlfriend be the first to know. That way you show her that you respect her.

3.Find a neutral and secluded spot
-"One of the worst places to break up with a woman is at a house or in a public place like a restaurant. "

As what I have said before, girls are very dramatic and sometimes they can't control their emotions especially the tears.So when you are planing to broke up with your girlfriend, find a place which is silent and at least you have a privacy that even she will have drama, at least no one sees it.

4.Keep it short and simple

-According to the article"When you break up with your girlfriend, don't give her a laundry list of everything that she does wrong. Just remember that she could make another guy really happy with her particular personality. So don't give her any "emotional baggage" by listing all her faults."

Telling all her faults and make her realize that it is her fault why you want to break up is not a good idea, When your breaking up with your girlfriend, Just be simple and straight to the point, Maybe tell her the main reason r problem so that she will be aware of it and then make your decision.In that way all will be clear.

5.Be Strong

"you'll probably be faced with a wide range of emotions. It's human nature to try to comfort people when they're upset. This is especially true when you see a woman in pain.'

In reality, when we know someone is hurt and especially we are the one who caused it, we wanted to comfort her. But comforting her will make her have hopes again that you will be okay. It will be hard for you to just don't mind it but at least try to control yourself. Time will come you will be given a chance to talk to her when you now that she's already okay.

Breaking up with a girl would maybe a bad feeling for a guy, But it doesn't mean that because you are afraid of getting her hurt you will just let the things go and wait the time that she will decide even you don't like it anymore. Being honest to your feeling will make her realize that you still love her truly, You are a human and you have that right to decide for yourself even if it hurt others